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“Oh, you look great! You must have lost weight.” “They really let themselves go, I wonder what happened…” “Wow, you bounced back quickly after that baby! Good for you.” What they really just said was: “I notice your body changes. I’ve noticed it before, I am noticing it now, and I will notice it in […]
As new age spiritualism continues to be on the rise, you may have heard the mysterious term: Shadow Work, and may be curious about what it means to get in touch with your shadows. In the therapeutic space, Shadow Work can be done using the Internal Family Systems (IFS) treatment modality. The beautiful thing about […]
At seven months pregnant, I have witnessed my body move through many stages of change that are happening without any thought involved. Some good, some not so good. A few nights ago, I was on the couch talking to my partner about some of the intrusive anxious thoughts I was having about the anticipation of […]
As I sit down to write, I can’t help but gaze outside at the gloomy weather. It’s a brutal day of 8 degrees with thick clouds and thick snow underfoot. Some people absolutely love this weather; more time snuggled up next to the fireplace under a warm blanket with those you love. However, this time […]
As a therapist, one of my specialties is working with those who suffer from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. Over time, something that has become like the sound of nails on a chalkboard has been when people flippantly state, “I’m sooo OCD” because they like their home to be clean and orderly or prefer their pizza without olives […]
You have probably heard the term “trigger” before. It’s become quite the buzzword, whether in casual conversation or in therapy. But I want to take this opportunity to talk to you about its sister word: glimmer. What’s a glimmer? It’s a cue that signals safety and security. One that creates a sense of internal peace […]
Today at the grocery store, I was maneuvering my cart around and found myself blocked by someone walking slowly and taking up most of the aisle. I waited patiently in silence until he saw me and then said, “I’m sorry,” when he moved to make space for me to walk through. At that moment, I […]
“I know it’s not my fault, but I still feel guilty.” “I know it’s irrational, but I somehow feel like I deserve this.” “I think I’m a good person, but I feel like I can’t do anything right.” These statements describe the vast distance between what we logically know to be true and the depth […]
If I asked you to sit and truly feel your emotions for what they were, would you know what to do? So many of us struggle with this or are completely repulsed by the idea itself. In the words of one of my clients, “Emotions? Gross!” When we lack emotional tolerance, we usually end up […]
Self-compassion seems a bit daunting, doesn’t it? I used to think this included manicures, cheesy Pinterest quotes or telling myself that I was the coolest person on the planet when I looked in the mirror; but for myself, and so many others, that did not feel authentic. When I mention the words “self-compassion,” many clients […]